A couple looking angry on a sofa.

The internet is siding with the man who told a woman “it’s fine” that she can’t have children

A woman who called her brother-in-law’s wheelchair-bound son ‘slow’ and ‘retarded’ has received a storm of backlash from Reddit users.

Several said the woman was ‘out of place’ for her ‘toxic’ comments and sided with the child’s father who told her ‘it’s a good thing you can’t have kids “.

According to a post from the 37-year-old father (using the username Kourambethie) shared on Reddit’s Am I The A**hole (AITA) forum, his 17-year-old son has cerebral palsy, a group of disorders that affects a person’s ability to move and maintain balance and posture.

The father said: “He can dress, he talks (a bit hard to understand at first, but you can understand him well if you put a little effort into it), he does very well in school and he is a very good child.”

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A distraught woman with a hand on her face, sitting at the end of a sofa, while a man looking upset sits at the other end. Several Reddit users have come to the defense of a father who hit back at his sister-in-law’s ‘toxic’ comments about his son in a wheelchair by saying ‘it’s good she can’t have kids “.
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The user said his brother and his wife couldn’t have children and went through several unsuccessful “IVF” cycles. [in vitro fertilization] and other treatments”, and they were both “devastated”, especially his sister-in-law.

One evening, when they were at their mother’s house for dinner and his mother asked if the 17-year-old had a girlfriend, the sister-in-law allegedly asked his father: “Can he even go out with him?”, adding “well he’ll be in your care forever, do you really want him to bring a woman in there.”

When the father “asked her to stop”, her brother said “she’s just asking a question”.

The sister-in-law then said, “I didn’t mean to offend you, it’s just that a slow kid might be too much work on his own, not dating anyone. [and] stuff,” according to the original poster.

The user then told her, “Our son isn’t slow and you’re SO out of place here,” to which she allegedly replied, “Relax please, damn it, I thought you had more patience, since you are raising a retarded child.”

The original poster then ‘lost’ her and told her ‘it’s a good thing you couldn’t have kids because you would have been an awful mother’, before the sister-in-law’s breaks down crying”.

User said: “Maybe I’m the AH [a**hole] because what I said was very harsh and I feel bad for saying that.”

According to a 2021 survey, conducted by market research group OnePoll for the nonprofit Morgan’s Inclusion initiative, more than half of Americans have faced some form of discrimination against people with disabilities, with only 43% of the 2,000 respondents to the survey had never witnessed such cases. discrimination.

According to research published in 2019 by the national Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) network, discrimination on the basis of disability is often linked to “both prejudice and broader social barriers” that deprive people with disabilities of equal opportunity. odds.

Research indicates that this discrimination is “both influenced by and influences the view of what people with disabilities are capable of doing”, and that people with disabilities experience discrimination through “attitudinal and structural barriers to inclusion”. .

Several netizens came to the father’s defense in the latest Reddit post, condemning the sister-in-law for his “cruel” and “rude” remarks. Several said she and her husband would make “horrible” parents.

User haremgirl6 said the father was “NTA [not the a**hole]”, adding” you were clearly not wrong at all. Hard? Absolutely. But wrong, no,” in a comment that got 6,800 upvotes.

User inkandpaperbookworm commented: “They [the user’s brother and his wife] would be terrible parents, and his comments were waaay out of place,” in a comment that got 3,600 upvotes.

Status-Thing-118 replied, “Some people shouldn’t breed…” in a comment that received 5,300 upvotes.

GuiltEdge added: “Yeah I was on the fence till she dropped the R-bomb [retarded]“, in a comment that got 2,200 upvotes.

User stop_spam_calls said the user’s brother and his wife “are the kind of people who don’t mind saying ignorant toxic shit, but the second they’re put in their place, the works of ‘weaponized water start…NTA’, in a comment that received 834 upvotes.

User pyramidheadismydaddy said: “that’s right, she would be an awful parent if she was that disgusting. I mean for fuck’s sake she even called it the r-word which is disgusting.”

Some accused the sister-in-law of being “ableist” or discriminating against people with disabilities.

Mammoth-Neat-5930 wrote: “She hasn’t even done any real research on cerebral palsy and thinks it’s okay to just spout things she doesn’t understand. Maybe what you [the father] said was harsh in the moment, but she was cruel and skillful in front of your kid…” in a comment that received 2,700 upvotes.

ElectricBlueFerret said the dad’s comment was “not harsh at all”, adding “Why do people think the feelings of ableistic people should be spared?”, in a comment that got 133 upvotes.

InfiniteCalendar1 said: “IMO [in my opinion] it is karma that she cannot conceive given that she is capable. I don’t believe empowered people should have children because there is always a chance your child has special needs, and a parent who is capable would only traumatize their child,” in a comment that received 169 upvotes. .

Newsweek has contacted the original author, (username Kourambethie) for comment.

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