A man has shocked users online after revealing he forgives his girlfriend for pointing a gun at him during a heated argument.
The original (OP) poster, or u/timelapsethrowaway, posted about the situation to Reddit’s “True Off My Chest” forum where it received over 10,500 upvotes and 4,600 comments, many of which mentioned the situation. importance of gun safety.
Domestic violence in numbers
The Centers for Disease Control has reported that nearly one in 10 American men has experienced some form of domestic violence or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetime.
The numbers more than double when it comes to femicide – the intentional killing of women or girls – with the CDC reporting that about one in four women in the United States has experienced some form of domestic violence or stalking.
In the post titled “My girlfriend pointed a gun at me during an argument and I can’t stop thinking about it,” the PO said he had been with his girlfriend for about four years and that they had never experienced a violent argument.
“That’s probably why I was so shocked when she did it,” the post read. “I had trouble sleeping and every time I see her I freeze. She apologized and I told her I forgive her for what I’m doing, I really love her but I don’t know , maybe I’m just overthinking.”
The OP also asked if “next time” she wouldn’t hesitate with the gun. He said he was looking for advice on Reddit because if he told his mum she would tell him to break up with her, adding that he “can’t think straight”.
“A bad pass”
The PO said he has no plans to leave his girlfriend, saying she is a “really beautiful soul” who has helped him through many traumatic experiences.
“She helped me heal. She is literally my source of happiness,” the post read. “I should have said that first, maybe it would change your opinion.”
He said he thought it was “just a rough time that most people go through” and that he wasn’t “really experienced” because it was his first relationship.
In an update to the post, the OP said his girlfriend came across the Reddit post and asked if it was him. He said he planned to go see her to “settle things off.”
“I’m not giving it up just yet,” the post read.
More than 4,600 users commented on the post, with many telling him to leave his girlfriend and calling her ‘violent’.
“Remember when playing, check the chamber and if you’re not about to shoot, keep your finger to the side,” one user commented. “Or just don’t point it at people. This is the number one rule of thumb in gun safety and recruits will get tackled if they break this rule. Even if the gun is unloaded or unloaded charger.”
“My dad taught me never to point a gun at anything or anyone you don’t mean to kill,” another user wrote. “It’s made to kill, not to threaten or intimidate.”
“Too many people are being killed by their partners and in most cases the signs were there before they were killed,” another user wrote. “Op, I’m a woman and I have to say RUN. Your life is in your hands.”
“Dude here, also an abuse survivor,” another commented. “What would you think of everything I said if the genders were reversed and the attacker was a guy waving a gun at his girlfriend? Run. Don’t walk.”
“I have read almost all of your OP replies and I fail to see how you are so blinded by your love for her. Literally any stage of a relationship, 2 months of dating, 5 years, or recently married or ten years, the minute a gun is pointed at you in an argument, you should get the hell out of here.”
According to a study published in the American Journal of Public Health, a global nonprofit organization working to protect children from injury, an estimated one-third of U.S. households with children 17 and under have a firearm. house fire.
In addition to providing the necessary precautions when young children are at home, it is also important to understand the link between access to firearms and domestic violence deaths.
It is estimated that half of all domestic violence homicides are committed with firearms, reported The Educational Fund to Stop Gun Violence.
Abusers often use firearms to coerce, threaten, or terrorize a victim even without the gun being unloaded.
“The perpetrators’ prior threats with a weapon and threats to kill their partners are both predictors of intimate partner homicide,” EFSGV said.
Newsweek contacted u/timelapsethrowaway for comment.
Other people seeking advice on Reddit also found their posts had gone viral, with many receiving support to stand up to their problematic partners.
A woman has been praised online for leaving her fiancé stranded at the mall after he threw a ‘tantrum’. Another woman was backed for leaving her boyfriend at the Grand Canyon, and another was praised for abandoning her boyfriend of nine years because of her children.
Anyone seeking help should call the National Domestic Violence Hotline, a free, confidential line available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, which can be reached at 1-800-799-7233 or TTY 1-800-787 -3224. The Hotline also provides information on local resources. For more information visit thehotline.org